The Calming Presence of Dogs: A Moment with Joey the Husky

There is something quietly profound about the presence of a calm, gentle dog. As therapists, we often speak about co-regulation, the nervous system’s innate ability to settle when in the presence of another being who feels safe and grounded. While we may apply this concept mostly to humans, animals — especially dogs — are natural co-regulators too.

Recently, I had the privilege of caring for a magnificent old husky named Joey. His presence brought with it something hard to put into words — a stillness, a quiet strength, a deep exhale that was felt not only by me but by my own dog, a 13-year-old companion who is usually reactive around larger dogs. Joey, however, seemed to emit peace. His gentle demeanor and unhurried movements were like a balm, softening the edges of the day.

To witness my dog resting in Joey’s presence, unbothered and even soothed, was moving. It reminded me of how powerful calm energy can be — how it can ripple outward and influence even the most anxious among us. Joey didn’t have to “do” anything. He just was. And in his being, there was medicine.

At the end of our day together, we sat on the doorstep and waited together for Joey’s human to arrive, sitting quietly beneath the vast moon, its glow casting soft silver light over the Liverpool Anglican Cathedral. That moment felt suspended in time — the old husky at my feet, my dog resting beside him, and me, watching the moonrise with a sense of deep peace I hadn’t realised I needed.

This is the quiet magic dogs bring. They remind us of what it is to be present. They don’t ruminate on the past or worry about the future — they just show up, fully, in the now. And when we let them, they can guide us back to that same simplicity.

Whether it’s through therapy dogs, emotional support animals, or simply the pets who share our homes, the companionship of dogs can have a profound regulating effect on our nervous systems. For clients who struggle with anxiety, loneliness, grief, or emotional overwhelm, the presence of a calm, trustworthy dog can offer a wordless form of healing.

So, if you’ve ever found yourself exhaling more deeply in the company of a dog, know that you’re not imagining it. These creatures are wise in ways we don’t always understand. Joey reminded me of that—and I hope, in some small way, this story reminds you too.